I Am Finding Myself

"Prayer is a relationship; half the job is mine. If I want transformation, but can't even be bothered to articulate what, exactly, I'm aiming for, how will it ever occur? Half the benefit of prayer is in the asking itself, in the offering of a clearly posed and well-considered intention. If you don't have this, all your pleas and desires are boneless, floppy, inert; they swirl at your feet in a cold fog and never lift.” ~Elizabeth Gilbert, Eat Pray Love

Change is scary as hell. While I have always welcomed changes in the past, those changes were typically planned. I planned to move from my hometown to a bigger town, on my own. I planned to move to Savannah after meeting my almost ex. And every military PCS, it was planned. I typically had jobs lined up, and a place to stay. Divorce? That change was not planned. Needed, yes. Planned, no. After reading Eat Pray Love, I have decided to use this major life change as a chance to transform myself, and my life. 

The above quote from Eat Pray Love spoke to me (one of many quotes that spoke to me). I have become lazy in my prayer life; some nights, saying the same prayer night after night. Yes, God knows what I need but how in the world can I expect him to listen when I don't articulate what I want? And further, I have to make changes to get what I need and want. I cannot just sit back and wait for the universe to drop things in my lap. 

It's uncomfortable to transform, and envision a completely different future. Perhaps that's why I have been procrastinating since I made the decision to divorce. Now I am forcing myself to envision the future that I want, and deserve, and for once in my life it doesn't involve a man. I am not saying that I don't want love, or to possibly marry again, but I know that having a great future and fulfilled life isn't dependent on having a husband. 

What am I doing to transform my life? Most importantly, I am first focusing on my spirituality. I am going to learn meditation (yes, I need to learn because my mind races all. the. time), and practice it daily. Along with meditation, I will be practicing yoga again; and not the weight loss, P90x type yoga, but the mind quieting, focused yoga that will help get back in tune with myself and my spirit.

 There is of course so much more that I need to do to transform my life, including developing a viable income, but I know that I cannot do that until my spirit is mine again. So let the transforming begin.